Why Are People Boring?
Welcome back to Aria's Corner. I'm Aria 🌷 and today I'm talking about...
I'm gonna just come out and say it. A lot of people are... boring. Not, like, "ugh you're doing unfun stuff again," boring—but more like... predictably boring 🫤.
Or this same-y type of boring, if that makes sense? I find it eerily strange, and I'm not trying to be mean or anything... but I mean... people scroll Instagram, walk down the street, and... it's... a-all the same.
Same clothes. Same phrases. Same tiktok personality quirks recycled like old milk. You know it. I know it. Maybe it's just me being cranky... but I don't think so. There's a trend here, and it frightens me 😟.
Here's the thing, I've been wondering why this has been happening... Now, what I think's going on here is that... maybe, just maybe people are afraid of being themselves. You know, the whole "everybody's judging me but I wanna express myself" limbo game we all play. But... that's been going on for decades 😕.
So, it's gotta be something else... We all know there's insecurity... though there's a lot of that, for sure. It's structural, all over the place. Everywhere we go, someone could be watching, recording, judging, screenshotting. It's like Big Brother has this weird cousin, only it isn't the government—it's social media... and it's us?! 🙃
Forget security cameras and state surveillance. With phones everywhere and the ease of capturing and sharing content across the globe in seconds... It'd be insane to believe that this constant visibility hasn't trained us to self-police. It's subtle and builtin to our daily lives. It's been growing under our noses the entire time and who's the wiser? Silent and deadly. That's why it works.
I mean, think about it. If you want to exist in this world, you gotta pick a personality that's acceptable. Of course you wanna express yourself and not end up a cringey cliche... Speaking of, why're we so obsessed with running from cringe and cliche? They can be fun too but that's a whole other post 🙄.
Anyways... where were we?
Oh yeah, mix-and-match personalities... So, we end up with a mix... the edgy-but-safe version of ourselves. The woke-but-not-too-woke version. The funny-but-inoffensive version. It's a balancing act where we're on a mission to fit in, sorta be ourselves, but not offend people... That's an impossible balancing act. You can please everybody, things are subjective... that whole thing. But you and I already know that 😉.
So... you basically end up outsourcing your entire identity to some pre-approved templates that society churns out. Why? Because experimentation feels like... like broadcasting your failures to the world. They might not like that. In fact, they probably won't love that. But to be honest... somehow, it still sorta works. You don't get rejected as much. You don't get memed (usually). You blend. You become one with the beige 🥱.
But there's a problem. Blending is lethal to your individuality. To your creativity. To your relationships. Because when you never take risks with who you are, you stop discovering what actually makes you tick. You become a collage of other people's choices, a person designed for approval instead of interest.
Now you know I'm all about being creative and expressing yourself 🦄. It's like, my favorite thing. So people trading themselves... to be a B-side copy of someone else's idea of "acceptable"? That sucks 😠. It really does.
And here's the kicker, the people who actually do stick out aren't doing it by accident. They treat themselves like an always unfinished project. They lean into their messy side. They embrace the weird, the socially awkward (hello cringe! You have been missed 😛), the unapologetically strange parts of themselves. And honestly? Doing that is terrifying. Because the world wants to flatten you if you stick out. Now, I could throw up a few walls of text around evolution and culture... but we both know you get it. Standing out used to be dangerous ✨.
So... yeah. I'm not entirely sure where I was going with this... Just noticed this thing and wanted to talk about it 😊.
There's no lesson or magical solution here. I guess if I had to make one up... it'd be, well... First off, you gotta be willing to be seen and even misjudged. Everyone knows that everyone judges, all of the time. Yet, most people are kinda obsessed with themselves. So there's that weird paradox of a juggling act. Oh, and of course... this means you gotta be open to being called cringe. It's like, a part of the process. Crazy how kids and elderly folks automatically know and live this but in between, the adults sort of... forget how to adult. Heck, fighting who you are is... basically the equivalent of forgetting how to human 😶.
Your quirks that seem "out of place"... those are you. They make you well... you. Dwayne Johnson crying in a romcom isn't a weakness. It's a signature. These things become a part of your branding, whether you like it or not.
I mean.. think about My Hero Academia for a second... I watched the anime recently. It takes the quirk thing to a whole new level. Those kids literally have powers built around their quirks... Like, there's this girl whose quirk basically lets her make anything float by touching it. Like, *tap* and off floats a car 🎈. It's a weird power, sure. But it shapes her character... Who she is. How she fights, screws up, and grows. It's also kinda how I remember her... that quirk is a part of her. Not to get snobby but that just kinda... proves my point 😏.
Of course, being different, accepting your weirdness... That's hard. I get it, it's uncomfortable. Doesn't feel all that good... It's gonna to make people roll their eyes, and it's going to make you question yourself a lot (as if you needed the extra judgement 😩). But... that's where the real you lives. You gotta lean into your quirks... define yourself on your own terms.
Guess what I'm trying to say is... stop being safe. Try weird stuff, fail, figure yourself out. I'm guessing only you can do that. And to be honest, if people are judging you... then you're being noticed. That means you're probably doing something right 😉.
Til next time. Your friend, Aria 🌷